In this article you will learn all about the Pagan Wedding Tradition from its history to how it is celebrated today. You’ll get an idea of what the ceremony might look like and how to include the handfasting ritual, and other fun aspects in your own wedding.
For couples who want a spiritual, but non-religious wedding, a pagan wedding ceremony might be the best choice. Based on ancient traditions, these weddings celebrate the harmony between nature, the elements and the gods. In recent years, pagan weddings have been growing in popularity, and are a great option for couples who want a slightly spiritual, nature-themed wedding experience. Here’s a closer look at the tradition of pagan weddings and why you might want to summon the gods on your special day.
At the heart of a pagan wedding ceremony is the tradition of handfasting. Historically, handfasting was a Celtic ritual where a couple’s hands were bound together with a cord as a symbol of their union. Traditionally, the handfasting ceremony was a short term agreement (pretty much like a modern day engagement) lasting a year and a day. After this time, the couple could decide to get married or part ways. Nowadays, we perform the ritual sometime during the wedding ceremony.
Pagan ceremonies don’t have to follow a strict set of rules. Usually, they include the four classical elements—earth, air, fire, and water. Each element is called upon to bless the union. For example, earth is the grounding element, fire the passion, water the calm…you get the idea. Some choose to bring an extra level of spirituality and call on their ancestors as well.
Many couples choose to hold their ceremonies outdoors, in locations that hold personal or spiritual value, such as forests, beaches, or gardens. Don’t count your backyard out – it could do the trick. The natural surroundings can help connect you to the elements and create a peaceful, calming atmosphere.
The ceremony often begins with the casting of a circle. This is a ritual that creates a sacred space and serves as a protective boundary which no evil force can cross. The officiant calls upon the elements and gods to bless the space and the marriage. The couple then exchanges vows and rings, followed by the handfasting ritual. Some ceremonies also include the sharing of mead or wine, symbolizing the sharing of life’s sweetness and challenges.
You might also like the fact that pagan wedding ceremonies have very few rules. Unlike traditional religious or civil weddings, which often follow a set script, you can pretty much do whatever you want with pagan ceremonies. Maybe you want to completely skip the handfasting ceremony and add a candle lighting ritual instead. That’s completely understandable! You can incorporate elements from your own culture, bring in your own personal beliefs, and wear whatever you think fits the mood of the wedding. This is what makes the pagan wedding ceremony such an attractive option to modern couples.
Furthermore, pagan weddings are big on equality and partnership. The rituals and vows are all about balance and harmony in relationships. The handfasting itself is a powerful symbol of this balance, as the binding of hands signifies the joining of two people dedicated to a life of faithfulness to one another. The ceremonies often involve the wedding guests, with friends and family invited to participate in the rituals, offer blessings, and share their support. It goes to show that marriage is not just a union between two individuals but needs the support of others.
In a time when people are becoming more and more disconnected from the natural world, pagan ceremonies are a great way to honor an ancient tradition and celebrate the Earth. May the blessings of the gods be upon you as you continue to shower love and care across land and sea.
Bernard Paul